I realized that I haven’t “talked” to my fellow singletons out there in a little bit. I think the most recent conversations I’ve had with my fellow sista-friends are ones dealing with, “Where are the good men at?” My cousin has even mention conversations with her male co-workers asking, “Where are the good women at?”
I think that both are like trying to find a needle in the haystack. We are all probably going around in circles & they are right in front of us. Do we realize it? Or do you see that good person/friend of yours in a relationship that has them going nowhere & they aren’t happy? It’s only imaginable to see where they would be if they end up with the person God has called them to be with.
Not that I don’t believe good men are out there, I think that I’ve come across more of the non-good ones. You know, the ones with a bunch of children, or not willing to work, or something along these lines. I think a lot of this deals with your surroundings. Are you participating in the events where people on your level would be? Are you getting outside of the comfort zone of being the “healer” for these relationships you chose? Do you constantly end up in the same type of relationship over & over again? This calls for a self-evaluation.
I don’t mind being single because I feel this is the phase where God continues to shape me into a better person for Him, myself, & my future husband. I think that we singletons need to focus on the inner growth & development of ourselves. Those special someones out there are being prepared as well. There’s no way that God wants us to end up with less than He intended for us unless we chose otherwise! Always seek God’s best and accept it when He brings it your way.
Until next time.
Blessings,
~Lisi P.
© Lisi P, 2009
Amen!!! It is ALWAYS important to start within if love or a relationship is something you seek. It is possible that “the right person” has passed you by, but it’s unlikely. I can speak from experience when I say that you know and FEEL when God has brought you and your significant other together, and it definitely comes when you least expect it. I used to go out all the time hoping and anticipating I would meet someone interesting. The ONE night I go out just to be polite and show my face at a party, I meet someone extremely special. I get butterflies when I think about him and the night we met! Anyway, you are doing the right thing by being patient. You have your career, your friends, your family and the freedom to enjoy LIFE. Always keep God on the forefront and He will work His will when He is ready for you to receive His blessing(s). I’m sure your life feels complete right now anyway, and with everything the Lord has planned for the near future, you have many things to look forward to! It’s always good hearing from you!